Should Parents Pay Kids for Good Grades?

As the school year opens, the question of whether parents should pay for good grades once again rears its ugly head.

By Michelle Luce

There is a raging debate that will not be settled here.

“Is it Smart to Pay for Good Grades” by Liz Pulliam Weston for msn.com, gives compelling reasons not to.  First, giving money, whether $5, $25 or more, exchanges the intrinsic reward of pride for a job well done, for an external one, which “…interferes with developing a work ethic.”  All parents want for their children to the best they can do for the satisfaction of having done a good job.  As the child reaches his mid-teens, the parent hopes for the child to be self motivated enough to do his best because he wants to.

Her second point is that monetary compensation may not be effective. While money may work for one child, it won’t work for another.  Some students like the “bonus” of money for good grades but weren’t motivated by it because of their natural ability or the enjoyment of learning.

Scholastic suggests that using money is most effective if it is done spontaneously.  “Kids who are aware of grade-incentives lose interest in the task twice as fast as those who didn’t know a reward was coming.”

And in a New York Times article, “One of the first such studies was published in 1971 by Edward L. Deci, a psychologist at the University of Rochester, who reported that once the incentives stopped coming, students showed less interest in the task at hand than those who received no reward.”

Liz Pulliam Weston’s next argument is that paying for “A’s” is not fair.  A child who makes an “A” without so much as breaking a sweat is rewarded while another child struggles, pouring heart and soul into his studies, and earns a “C” gets nothing. Children with learning disabilities, who are unable to make an “A” might feel slighted. You might suggest, then, a sliding scale.  Which could work if your children are able to understand that Mary is rewarded for a “C” as her best work while Billy is only rewarded for “A’s.”  I don’t know about your house, but that would be a sticky wicket in mine.

Weston also likens paying for “A’s” to a drug addiction.  Five dollars might work this quarter but getting the same results in the next quarter might require more.  Where does it end? A car in high school?  Our fear is students won’t love learning for the sake of learning.  “I try to instill a sense of intrinsic reward in the students. I’d rather see a student want to learn for the sake of learning than learn for the sake of a car.” says Reagan Hawkins, a teacher in Nederland, Texas.

To me, the key is training your student to understand that learning can be in itself a great reward. Pushing hard to ace the trig exam is worth it.  Being able to say all the prepositions or the eight times tables is its own reward.

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  3. myles burress

    I think that paying your child is wasting the money you earned at work.You use your money to feed your children and take care of them not so your child can run around saying “I got money!”


    • crystle waters

      there is something wrong with u woman u need to get a life!!!!! and we should derserve money!!!!!


  4. people person

    @myles burress I am a teenager and I completely agree with you.

    @crystle waters I like how you use insults and do not offer a valid argument. Anyways, do you mean “we deserve money” or “we should receive money.” How about fixing your grammar before you come out to play hardball with the big kids.


  5. myles burress

    Thank you for siding with me people person


  6. My mom

    no one agrees with you myles burress and people person and you both suck eggs

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